Have you been asked to be a part of a wedding or are you getting married? This means you may expect to give a toast on the big day. Don’t worry! This can actually be fun with a few simple tips. Toasts are a wonderful addition to bring the wedding group together during the reception. Toasts can make you (happy) cry and laugh! These are something every person attending the wedding will remember.
But how to go about this? We got you! Let’s go over how to give a great wedding toast. Grab some coffee, you will won’t want to miss any of these tips.
Ask About The Plan
Before you start preparing for your toast, ask if the couple wants you to give one and what the plan will look like. If you are anything like us, you like to know the details in advance! If you are the couple getting married, decide if you want to give a toast as a couple. There is no right or wrong decision. Chat with the wedding planner about how the logistics will work on the day of.
Even if you want to give a toast, if the couple doesn’t ask and an open mic isn’t specified, we have a compromise for you. Write down what you want to say to them in a private note so they can have it as a keepsake forever. After all, a toast is mainly for the couple, not just the guests at the end of the day.
For the couples of honor that don’t love the idea of giving a toast, handwrite a thank you to your guests after. Again, there is nothing wrong with not giving a toast. It isn’t everybody’s cup of tea. A few sentences expressing your gratitude for your guests after the wedding will go a long way.
This is for those toasting to the couple of honor. When you are brainstorming what you want to say for your toast, keep it heartfelt and classy. You can include some humor, but don’t push it too far. If you know you love jokes, ask another set of eyes to review your toast in advance. The best person for this would be the wedding planner! Create your toast from the heart and make sure it feels authentic to you.
Write and Practice
Write it down, practice, and memorize it. Don’t be tough on yourself. Create a few different drafts. Think about your relationship to the couple and what you want them to hear from you on their wedding day. Don’t forget to include both individuals in your toast. You were most likely friends or family with one of the partners first but this is for both of them! There’s nothing wrong with keeping your notes with you when it is time to toast but, be sure you are able to recite it mostly from the heart. This will make your toast feel thoughtful and genuine.
When it is time for the rehearsal, make sure you know exactly where you will be standing, who you need to grab a microphone from, and where your notes will be.
Watch Your Time
Keep your toast short. 2-4 minutes will keep everybody engaged and the timeline running smoothly. This is actually plenty of time to give your toast! You will probably surprise yourself when you are practicing your toast with the timing.
Grab Your Drink
Don’t forget to take your drink with you when it is your turn! This might seem obvious, but nerves can cause you to forget. By the way, no need to be nervous! Remember, you are all there to celebrate and there is no pressure to be a professional speaker. Grab your drink of choice and raise a glass to the couple of honor after your a-m-a-z-i-n-g toast.
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